What does Shadow & Ego State Work bring to Spaceholding?
We created this work because again and again inside Connect and our transformation work, we saw how powerful things become when Shadow Work is included. Working in a team of responsible adults becomes possible. Collaboration without hierarchy becomes natural. Thrive Culture can grow and sustain itself. Transformative Spaces deepen. Relationships expand instead of burning out or staying small.
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Working consciously with the different Ego States and with the Shadow Guide brings another layer to Space Holding: recognizing the different parts and identifications operating in ourselves and others, while developing a new relationship with the Shadow World. The work with the Shadow Guide is also an initiation into adulthood, including deep practices for integrating these forces with Consciousness and Love.
What this Act includes
Ego States Work + Shadow Guide Work
Ego States Work
Who is holding the steering wheel?
We have many different parts—a whole zoo of them. In this work, we use 7 primary Ego States as a practical map for recognizing which part of us is relating, reacting, speaking, or holding the steering wheel.
These different parts developed through different situations, adaptations, decisions, beliefs and experiences. The work is not about deciding which one is the “real you,” but becoming able to recognize your X on the map—from which position of identification you are relating.
For a Space Holder, this also opens the possibility of recognizing the different Ego States operating in the people you hold Space for.
×Your X on the map
Shadow Guide Work
An initiation into adulthood
The biggest challenge in working with your Shadow World is learning not to judge it, dismiss it as “bad,” or criticize yourself for having one at all.
In this Act, you come into direct contact with your Shadow Guide—the “King” of your Shadow World—discover its unique tricks and patterns, and begin forging a different relationship with it.
The work includes deep practices for integrating the Shadow with Consciousness and Love, redefining your relationship with your Shadow World, and beginning to direct your Shadow Guide toward tasks and missions that serve your Conscious Purpose.
Meet your Shadow GuideDiscover its tricks & patternsRedefine your relationship with your Shadow WorldReframe how you understand your Shadow GuideDirect it toward tasks & missionsTrain your Shadow Guide as a more powerful, supportive force
Feeling Work continues here
Feeling Work is essential here. You need your Feelings online to navigate the Shadow World with clarity and precision—especially Fear, Anger and Sadness as tools.
For the Spaces you hold
Recognize different Ego States operating in yourself and others.
Practice standing in front of another person's Shadow without rescuing, fighting or collapsing.
Work with Shadow patterns, sabotage, avoidance and hooks with greater awareness.
The team Space
This work happens inside a team practising awareness, sensitivity and honesty.
Live processes · Experiments · Clear mirrors · Collaboration · Integration between meetings
Inside a previous Shadow Guide training.
What this opens
Deeper capacity to hold intense Spaces
More clarity & depth in transformative Spaces
Stronger possibilities for connection & intimacy
Working in teams of responsible adults
Collaboration without hierarchy
A grounded base for deeper Archetypal Work & long-term team building
Act II
Shadow Guide & Ego States Work
Dates
20 December – 27 January
Sixth meeting
Intimacy Café
Holiday rhythm
20 & 27 December meet on Sundays
After the Act
Two-week integration break
From related Connect trainings
Words from people who entered the work.
“The Space Holding offered exquisite support for me to show up authentically, connect with myself and the group, and directly experience the distinctions.”
Laura · Connect participant
“I could express myself and felt connection. I didn’t lose the feeling of anger, and it brought even more love.”
Inside a previous Shadow Guide training.